Heart in Hand

About us

People who are not afraid of this.

Heart in Hand was created by Elaine, an end of life doula and funeral celebrant. Around her is a team of professional, caring people who share one belief: nobody should face dying, death or grief on their own.

What an end of life doula does

A doula walks alongside someone who is dying, and alongside the people who love them. That can be practical, like plans, paperwork and what to expect. It can be simply being there, a calm presence in the room when everything feels unsteady. It is not medical care and it does not replace nurses or hospice teams. It fills the space around them.

What a celebrant does

A celebrant builds and leads the ceremony after a death: the funeral, or a service of remembrance. Elaine writes each one from the person it is for, their words, their music and the stories told by the people who knew them.

Elaine, who started it

Elaine

Elaine

Business creator and owner

Elaine has had a purpose since birth. She was born MAD: born to Make a Difference.

Elaine is the thread running through everything here. What began as her own practice as a doula and celebrant has grown into a wider service, but the way of working has not changed: you are met by a person, not a process.

She is a born survivor who has overcome more than her fair share of life's challenges and trauma. Family estrangement, suicide, baby loss and miscarriage, marital abuse, divorce, sibling jealousy, bullying in her early years, and much more. School was far from enjoyable up to sixteen, but once free of the system, the path she chose for herself gave her the skills and knowledge to achieve great things.

She has always led with care, compassion and kindness. A good listener with a calm, friendly way about her that has carried her through some very challenging environments. Elaine is a qualified counsellor, end of life doula and funeral celebrant, with training in pastoral care, dementia care, end of life care, self care, nutrition and health, alternative and holistic therapies and business management. She has volunteered with The Samaritans, Home-Start Epsom, Ewell and Banstead, the Royal Voluntary Service and Oxfam.

In this next chapter she hopes to use everything she has learned to bring a better understanding of dying, death and grief to everyone.

The team around you

None of this rests on one pair of shoulders. Elaine works with professional, caring people so that the right person is beside you for whatever you bring, and you will always know who you are talking to.

Sarah E

Sarah E

Business support

From senior cardiac nurse to business management, a whole career in the NHS.

Sarah retired from the NHS after a long career as a senior cardiac nurse, working latterly in business management. She now works part time alongside Elaine, supporting the business wherever she can.

Away from work she looks after her ageing parents, the family dogs and the chickens, volunteers at Oxfam in Cranbrook, and keeps swimming and Pilates in her week.

Gwen

Gwen

Front of house

Friendly, caring and approachable, with a smile that is contagious.

Gwen has worked in retail and hospitality, and loves nothing more than a good chat and getting to know people. She will welcome you and do her best to find a way to meet your requirements.

She also makes a very good brew.

Lisa S

Lisa S

Team member

Safe, supported, loved and never alone: how the people around her describe how she makes them feel.

Lisa is a daughter, sister, wife, friend, mum and nanny, and has spent over a decade at the British Heart Foundation as well as running her own business with her husband.

Asked to describe herself, she found it hard, so she asked her children instead. Her eldest son, a man of few words, said trustworthy. Her middle son said reliable, organised and extremely welcoming. Her daughter said she is their constant, their biggest support, the one they can always rely on.

As Lisa puts it: maybe I don't need a long list of qualities or achievements. Maybe who I am can be found in the way I make people feel.

Looking across the wooden footbridge under the willow, toward the buildings at Hawkhurst Fish Farm

Our space is at Hawkhurst Fish Farm in Kent. See the space

Come and say hello.

The first conversation is free and it commits you to nothing at all.